Those who know and love me, know that I can't cook worth a damn. After yesterday's fiasco morning, I decided to make cookies last night, with which to bribe T this morning. Aunt Dot had used that gimmick with some success while she was staying with us for the last 2 weeks.
Problem is, my cookies are markedly different than my sister's. My cookies have a beautiful halo of dark brown all around the edges and on the bottoms. What's worse, is that they are more the consistency of a cracker than a cookie with an extremely high crunch factor. T wants nothing to do with them. Making them was particularly demeaning, in that everytime I pulled out some pot or pan from the cabinet to use, T would say,
"That's Aunt Dottie's, Mama, That's Dottie's."
Yeah, no shit sherlock (I thought in my mind).
So this morning, once again, I had to manhandle T into her clothes. Carol McK's suggested bribe of no TV until dressed had no impact. Nor did my bribe of my burnt offerings. Hmm, perhaps I should pull out the big guns, and offer chocolate M & Ms. Good lord, though, I think the daycare would kill me if I sent T to school on a sugary chocolate high.
Suggestions, anyone?
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Wednesday, December 3, 2008
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ok - here is how it plays out - get up - eat - pick out clothes (k 99% of the time cares less about her options..if she does take notice - I give her a choice of 2 shirts/2 shorts/pants -only one pair of shoes for school (no option there...) (no tv at this point) I tell her get dressed - then you can turn on the tv - if I take a shower and she is still piddling - I remind her that she will go to school how ever she is dressed (we make funny sayings like - MAMA - my friends will say Kimberly I see your panties...mama they should not see my panties - she cracks herself up (forgetting that she was being stubborn..) If this still fails - then I pull out the BIG men ole mom stuff - I tell her ok - you will go just as you are and no TV for 2 days - come with me while we mark the calendar (most of it is all a big show by me-her button is TV - It might be something else in your house - like her music in the car or a favorite snack (I don't hold back food-only things like her Popsicle after dinner or ice cream)...Figure out her trigger - and push it - I can tell you K went thru a stage for about 2 weeks where we had a battle everyday - and then as fast as it appeared it was gone - I kept it light - tried to joke but was well prepared to take her as is - she has seen me do that with not moving fast enough and we run out of time to "do her hair" she was all upset - I told her if she got dressed faster then I would have time to do her hair - I ran a brush thru it and off she went - I normally pull it back in 2 pony’s...
Or you could try - "if you want to earn your dress (1 dress) back -you have to xyz for 3 days in a row - don't give in - highlight the calendar - so she see the 3 days - and if she goes 2 then slips back remind her of what is at stake -and she is choosing her option - not mommy...reverse it on her - I should write a book -
It is prob just more of I am getting a little older and see how far I can push mom - my motto is - It is my way or ahhhhh - yes MY WAY! This is a dictatorship...and I am the queen - princess - :-)
Of course with a smile on my face - then I walk into my broom and want to scream into a pillow - ahahhhahahahhah - thank goodness K is past that episode...no giving in - has been my motto fm day 1 - it works for us - maybe you too - or you could just eat a whole bunch of cookies...
Hugs fm us
ps no bribes - just do what I ask or this is the consequence..she chooses it by her actions...
I am definitely not as good at this as Carol McK but I agree no bribes. She should not be rewarded for doing what she needs to do. On the other hand, I would strongly reinforce what she needs to do and use the princess dresses as incentive. I also use the 1-2-3 magic warning, telling her she has until I count to 3 or....
I've taken away TV, taking a book in the car, etc. Tonight though I again followed your lead and put bubbles on the high shelf because she wouldn't listen.
We call Santa at 1-800-CAll-SNTA to report poor choices to Sparkle, the elf in charge of the nice and naughty list. It's a direct line to the North Pole for parents only. I know. Shame on me.
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