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Wednesday, May 5, 2010

And So It Begins...

Well, I went to speak with a lawyer on Monday about what options are available to deal with my parents. Things literally spun out of control this weekend, and I truly believe that my father is putting my mother at risk. Suffice it to say, since Thursday night, he had her on the floor approximately 8 or more times. I arrived on Tuesday morning to find my mother on the floor. My father was acting like nothing was wrong. His response? "Yeah, I think your mother wanted to sleep on the floor".

Oy. When told that she doesn't have the capacity to lower both rails and put herself on the floor, he said he couldn't remember how she got there. I truly don't think he was lying. I called the Dr., and took her to the ER.

My mom had a pain in her side that wouldn't go away since Sat., that I was afraid was either broken ribs, bruised ribs, or perhaps internal injuries. Xray has ruled out broken ribs. She has a very bad UTI, that may be left over from her bad blatter infection that she had upon discharge from St. Cats. Perhaps it was never cured, don't know. They stated that she has a heart arrithmia (sp?), and her blood pressure wildly fluctuates from way too high to way too low.

I've also asked that a psychiatrist evaluate her and write a report for competancy, as I need one to establish an Emergency Temporary Guardianship. I fully expect that it will be converted to a permanent one, eventually.

So, what's the plan?

She'll remain in the hospital hopefully til at least Friday afternoon. We'll probably be in court Friday morning. If she's not discharged to a rehab facility, then I'm taking her back to my house, with the aid. If my father wants to visit, he is welcome, but we need the authority to throw him out if he starts his nonsense. Once my mom is safe, I plan to get my dad some evaluation and treatment. That will be very hard b/c he doesn't believe anything is wrong.

My ultimate goal is to move my mom back into her home with him with the aid assisting both of them, and he would cooperate and stop his nonsence. After all, despite everything that she doesn't remember, my mom would rather be in her own home with him. I fully recognize that. However, if he were to act up once she's home, I need the ability and legal authority to yank her from the house.

How well will all of this go? I shudder to speculate. I suspect I may have to seek a guardianship over him in the near future, and force treatment on him. My heart is breaking.

So, please wish us luck that this goes as smoothly as possible.

2 Brilliant Comment(s) from Friends:

Connie said...

I am brokenhearted by these tragic situations that you both are facing and by the things that must be done to make for a gentle and kinder life. I am here for you in any way I may be of help. Love you. oxoxxo

Laura said...

Oh honey, so sorry. It's so hard, isn't it? Hugs to you and Dot and sending good karma your way.

A marvelous plan was made in the stars,
to create a miracle across the ocean so far....
Then entwine and weave all the hopes and labor,
it would take to bring us this joy called "Taylor"....
Now three lives are blessed and somewhere in the stars,
the planners are smiling, as we all are.

Taylor's Gal Pals

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